Acceptance

In a previous blog post I mentioned this quote by Bert Hellinger “Human beings can only love things that are imperfect because perfect has never been real and real has never been perfect” I wanted to touch this again but talk more about accepting yourself. You are imperfect and that’s ok. As Dr. Hellinger stated perfect has never been real so saving your love for yourself for when you are perfect its unproductive and harmful because perfect isn’t real. Humans aren’t perfect. Don’t strive for perfection in yourself strive for growth and acceptance.

If when you think of yourself and you list things like anxiety, depression, ADHD, and/or chronic illness you see this is negatives or things that need to be hidden, you are not allowing yourself to shine in your truest most authentic self. These things feel negatives and burdensome and deserve to be hidden. However, if you don’t eat what’s on your plate you’ll starve. That is so much easier said than done. Allow yourself some grace in knowing its ok to not be perfect. Accept yourself, the good, the bad, the ugly, the imperfect. You are perfectly imperfect.

Sending you all the love and acceptance,

Mickey

There's Power in Authenticity

“There’s no Crying in baseball!” If you know where that quote is from lets be friends. A lot of us have been taught to not cry or maybe even suck it up. We are taught be strong, and to be strong is to not be vulnerable or show emotion. By learning this we are taught that vulnerability is weakness. This whole idea that strength is in hiding your vulnerability is so far from the truth and prevents us from living our truth. There is power in authenticity. After of years of being taught “be strong don’t cry” or being made to feel weak when we show emotion, our ego gets in the way when we do anything different. Our ego tries to keep us in check by convincing you that the authenticity in being vulnerable is weakness. When you drop your ego and show your authentic vulnerable self that isn’t weakness, it’s freedom. There is nothing more courageous and strong than showing your vulnerability.

Here is the problem we run into in relationships and connecting with people. People are afraid of being authentic but only when people are authentic can we related to them. Being vulnerable sharing emotion is what we can all relate to and understand in each other. Vulnerability is where we find love. Relating to vulnerability is where we find compassion and strength. I heard this quote from Bert Hellinger that I really helped me to understand. “Human beings can only love things that are Imperfect because perfect has never been real and real has never been perfect”. Perfect isn’t real. Imperfection in being vulnerable is the realest anyone can possibly be.

Go out there show your true strength by being vulnerable.

Kindest Regards,

Mickey

Mindful Monday

Dis-empowering

We’ve all known or least seen a hover parent. That parent that’s watching every move the child makes and stepping in on every mistake to the point they are doing everything for them. With good intentions they are disempowering the child by not letting them make mistakes. Trying things on our own we learn confidence and empower ourselves to do more.

This happens with adults too. We often mistake helping someone with just doing things for them. I know I’m guilty of this. With good intentions we can disempower the people in our lives by just doing it for them. It’s ok to be present and offer guidance. But try not do anything for anyone else that they can do themselves. Don’t disempower the people in your life. Empower them to handle the things they can and be there for the things that can’t.

Until Next Time,

Mickey

Mindful Monday ‘

I want to start weekly mindful Monday posts. I want to write short (no promises) mindful post. Like a weekly advice column. That will hopefully inspire a lettering or typography piece to go along with it. So advice meets art. Well anyways here’s my first one:

Success shouldn’t measured by your house or car and bank account. There are people who may lead you to believe the opposite. When people think of success they tend to think about material things. It’s like expensive material objects are receipts for they’re success. They may want you to believe that is how success is measured because they have the receipts to prove it. In all actuality you can have lots of nice things and not feel successful because you aren’t fulfilled. Fulfillment doesn’t mean meeting your wildest dreams. It’s the enrichment of your life. Did you do things today that made you happy? Did you give yourself the rest you needed? Did you learn something new? Did you spend time with someone you care about? Where you heard or allowed someone else to be heard? These enriching moments makes you feel fulfilled. Being fulfilled is success. It’s a receipt you don’t have but can still be seen. Try to take the time to ask yourself; have I enriched myself today? Tomorrow try focusing on that same idea. Make it a habit. If you measure your time on this earth not with possessions but with times you’ve felt fulfilled you won’t need those expensive receipts to be successful. No matter what, I’m proud of you.

Kindest regards,

Mickey